I think both Mike Huckabee and Rosie O’Donnell conducted themselves well during this radio discussion. I found them both to be respectful to the other and that was refreshing. I respect that as much as Mike Huckabee didn’t want to put down or condem Rosie, he also didn’t back pedal (like Obama) on his religious beliefs. As a Christian I believe that marriage is a covenant between a man, a woman and God.

That said, I do think there are laws and practices that need to be changed. I do believe that ANYONE should have the right to request whomever they want to visit them in intensive care, help make medical decisions for them (if granted those rights previously in documents), and leave money or property (tax free) to whomever they choose, Gay couples included. I think that is a basic human right. I think these are civil issues that could easily be passed in legislature if we take the issue of marriage out of the equation. I know its not popular. It is in fact scary to come out and say how I feel because I have gay friends and relatives whom I know want the right to be “married”. I don’t want to be unkind. I don’t want to hurt them. And yet, I want to be a follower of Christ. I don’t want to pick and choose what I believe and make my own religion up as I go.

The issue of foster care adoption does throws me for a loop. Does it do the same to you? I don’t know the right answer on this one.

Isn’t a home better than no home?

Is a home with two loving same sex parents better than a home with none?

How does it feel to grow up with gay parents?

Is a single heterosexual parent better than two gay parents?

Are two parents better than one?

Sadly, I cannot yet answer any of these questions.

I only know that the more I learn about our foster care system the more my heart breaks. I think if Christians like Mike Huckabee want to take a firm stance on this adoption issue then they also need to make a call for Christians to adopt children out of the foster care system. There are children who need homes. They need someone to love them. The fact that these children came out of dysfunctional heterosexual homes isn’t lost on me.

I just don’t know what else to do but pray. Pray and hope that our family will be called to adopt. Pray that we can make a difference somehow to the lives of children in the Foster Care System. Pray and hope that there will be a day when this isn’t an issue.

A friend of mine who runs a charity that helps couples (regardless of sexual orientation, marital status or race) adopt through adoption grants recently shared with me that black mothers who wish to put their children up for adoption usually end up doing so with gay parents. Why? Because those are the people lining up to take these “less than desirable” infants.

We live in a fallen world.

I don’t have the answers.
Do you?